PARENTHOOD

We all need to realise that we have demons inside that we fight with daily. These then go ahead and affect our perception in life and basically all our relationships. It is then very important to sort out our struggles, imperfections, insecurities and temperaments before deciding to have children. Hell! before having sexual and platonic relationships. This is, you end up projecting your traumas to innocent individuals and damage them in the process hence becoming a vicious circle. 

Children are very innocent in all this. All they require is love and provision. It is absolutely wrong to project our childhood, relationship traumas to our sweet babies when all they want is attention from us. See, I have a neighbour that wakes up at 6am to scream on top of her lungs and beat her kid up almost every morning. This happens as soon a s the dad has left for work. The poor traumatised baby is hardly two and this makes me wonder what a toddler does every single day to warrant regular beatings every now and then. What's interesting is, when the dad is around, all you hear from the house are loud hearty laughters from the baby and the dad. The mom also seems to be more calm. I can not help it wonder if it is a psychological issue that the mother goes through or simply projecting her traumas; then again, isn't that psychological?

People! I know our parents did a number on us and we did not have any option. Seek help. Do not stay in an abusive; mentally, emotionally, physically relationship just because you feel trapped. Some of us have been through that type of entrapment and took so much will power to leave... seek assistance. It is never easy to up and leave but for the sake of your children, your inner peace which a lack of it causes so many ailments, it is not worth it. You come first. 

Do not bring kids into this world if you are emotionally and mentally damaged. You will damage those kids to a point of no return and honestly, they did not ask for such a life. Seek help. Do not enter a relationship if you are damaged. Your self worth will only diminish, the other party will probably take advantage of the situation and or, you will damage that partner. 

My take? If sorting though issues, seek professional help and seek alone time to seek yourself out and find yourself. Out door activities like walking in the forest after a therapy session works wonders! Remember, it took years for the damage to present itself. You will not sort out your problems in a day.  Might actually get worse as you face your traumas, BUT! IT MOST DEFINITELY GETS BETTER..