SEX

 

Guys, there is always a lot of performance pressure during sex. Who will orgasm first, how long will you last(man) what does the other party love.. We overthink the whole process before and during yet it is the most simple and natural things ever existing. I think we were brought up knowing that sex is a taboo and we shouldn't speak about it hence going in blind. For women especially, it is looked down upon if you know your way around the bedroom, you love porn and you tell your partner exactly what you want. Why? Well, It is thought that your body count is high... and so what if you have a high body count? I mean, men also have high body counts. kwani who are they sleeping with for them to have such high numbers? Where do they think these women go? Disappear from the face of the earth once they've slept with them? Again, how much is 'high' when it comes to body counts? 5? 20? 67? Personally, anything past 3 doesn't really count because the first one is the one that breaks your virginity mostly the person you love the most and will never forget... I still keep in contact with mine. We are good friends... Purely platonic now. Second one is mostly a rebound since the first broke your heart hence most people can not remember the second person they had sex with.... I don't! Who does??? WHY? These people are mostly very irrelevant! The third person is well.... You have gotten your way through various styles, the normal sex embarrassments... By the time you've hit your third partner, you are a pro! Oh yes! This one is also not remembered because... well, 3 is just another number like 37 and so your journey starts. So, Men, do not ask the body counts your woman has had... You will be shocked by the number. Always assume the same body count you have is the same she does and carry on with your relationship.

I am a woman who is naturally very curious about life. I ask questions. I do not like being in the unknown as knowledge as my dad educated me, IS POWER! Sex is no different. Women know who they will sleep with before it even happens. I will meet a guy day one and I will know this one is a potential(Even if the possibilities of the act happening is mostly non existent) and this one... No way will it ever happen. Unfortunately. most women nowadays are sleeping around with men they would ordinarily never think of sleeping with mostly because of money. Hence a surge of diseases, many damaged women emotionally among others WHY? Well, most men are on a revenge mission and so are the women. It truly is sad. I digress... Knowing a potential prior any kind of relationship germinates is amazing! Well, I have a very vivid imagination... blame it on my creativity, anxiety and overthinking brain. Also, I love to control my surrounding in that I will ask questions to get to know you a bit better. When we finally decide that the feelings we have are mutual, I will discuss sex at length! Yoooh! I do not want to be caught flat footed with a man turning none existent buttons. That is a total turn off. I love sensual men. Someone who is playful, naughty and a good listener. nibble in my ear, neck, lightly touch my lips with your finger tips making me shiver. Make me yearn for you by exciting my brain. I am turned on by smart men. I love mental challenges and boy will I have a filed day flirting. I will explicitly tell you what I like and ask you the same. I have fetishes that I love satisfying and would like to know if you have any we explore together. See, sex is a journey that should be traveled by two people who are not afraid of discussing their past experiences, their expectations, their insecurities, and obviously trying new territories together with patience.

O! Good people, make sex fun! Make it playful and laugh while at it. It eases out tensions that come about from seeing someone naked for the first time. I know women are insecure about their tummies, saggy boobs, cellulite and all. Trust me, men do not care about any of that. Men on the other hand are so worried about their penis size! My dear men... as long as the woman is into you, your size really doesn't matter! Men are also worried about not lasting enough with the other bunch dismissing the ones  that last more than 15 minutes. Men, it is not a competition. Its is simple fun and intimacy. I know of men that will be at it the whole night and with someone different it only takes 30 minutes. It really is all about the connection that you have with your partner. As well, sex can be so boring with one person to a point that you are labeled pathetic in bed only for you to be a freaking rock star in someone else's bedroom. Intimacy is everything and all is created by friendship and communication.

So, Go yeee and have conversations that will make your sex life mind blowing!