SELF IMPOSITIONS

 

So! I met this 'friend' of mine the other day and smack face asks me if I have stopped crying. That people should stop crying immediately after funerals and move on with their lives. He was actually even laughing about it. Wait... what? What gives people the right to impose on your life? Your feelings? Your emotions? I almost went all insane but my inner peace stepped in whispering into my ears that I need to educate this poor soul that grieve lasts for years if need be and its ok. Why is it that people think you do not deserve to cry and let it all out? PEOPLE! MIND YOUR BUSINESS! Another one told me to let it go. That it is ok and to be strong. Wait.... What? be strong? about what exactly? C'on guys! NEVER EVER!!! Tell a grieving person to be strong or it is going to be ok... to move on. It is very OK for a person to take time off to mourn. Infact, religious books stipulate 40 days of active mourning. From there you continue on your heart felt plight. So, guys! be sensitive.

Also, I have realised I tend to spiral out of control when I lose someone. I struggle with acceptance, I grieve, I get into activities that are damaging in the long run. Unhealthy relationships, gambling- I lose terribly... A struggle to be needed and feel wanted. 

What do you guys struggle with after a loss? How do you rid yourself the habit?